How to recognize a bullied victim and a bully.
How to recognize a bullied victim and a bully. is an article I thought about, as I was wondering about the state of our secondary school these days.
Of course, this article is most suited for children that are feeling the effect of bullying in their lives now.
How to identify a bullied victim.
How to identify a bullied victim is a more tricky one than how to identify a bully.
Looking at various scenarios bullies are always proud, outstanding and notorious.
On the other hand, bullied victims are always timid, secretive and always on the shadow.
The bullied victim.
The bullied victim also has its own ways on the ladder of identification.
Like family, peer groups, school, and individuals.
These are things that will make others likely to bully you.
When all these below are noticed in you.
Family risk factor on a bullied victim.
Over protections by family members:
when you protect an individual too much, you leave them open to attack and fearful of others.
This happens when they are far from home most especially.
They will always think that there will be a savior to save them if anything starts happening.
Families that were soft and not authoritative in the past.
These are like a trait, some families might have a long history of being bullied.
So, in this case, one of their children might take on their soft spot and indecisive life.
Individual risk factors for identifying a victim of a bully.
Physical weakness particularly boys:
when boys are born with weak bodies they become an easy target of the bullies.
Whether in the school or among their peers at home or playground.
Having Difficulty asserting themselves among peers:
People that agree with whatever their companions say without having their own personal opinion are usually oppressed. friends.
Victims of bullies are cautious, sensitive, and have insecure personalities.
Victims of bullies are always insecure, cautious, sensitive and complain about their weakness.
They blame everything on their powerlessness.
They also blame their parents most of the time for giving them weak bodies, ask me if they are God.
Finally, individuals within the minority groups like lesbians, gay, negro, handicap, and transgender, etc are mostly bullied.
Minority groups either have little friends of their kind or work alone.
Now take a look at the colleges and high schools.
how many percentages of these minority groups are found in those schools?
Peer groups characteristics:
People who lack close friends are usually bullied either in class.
This is because they are isolated and alone and also because they go back home alone.
Most high school girls or boys are brought back by their parents.
Most of the busy parents might not have the time to bring their children back so they follow public transport or school bus.
On the school bus, if you are alone you become an easier target for harassment.
Lacking special groups:
the legally sanctioned group is always great for the individual to hide.
They won’t be singled out of that group very easily, but when they lack the protection of these groups they become prey to the world.
School characteristics for the bullied victim
Presence of aggressive students both in the same class or higher class.
School is full of intimidations.
These intimidations are destined to cause a nuisance to the victims that are bullied.
The presence of these bullies will only increase the threat of the students.
Uneven or inconsistencies enforcement of the rules and laws, Situations like these increase the activities of a bully.
This happens when they see that punishment is not giving frequently.
when they notice that they can maneuver the law then the activities of bully increase automatically.
Giving some students leverage over others either because they are holding some positions or the other.
This happens a lot when a student is giving preference over others.
They may start oppression others because of their position.
They misuse their power for fun hence increasing the activities of bullying.
Indifference on the part of teachers or authorities increases the activities of bullies.
moreover accepting students’ attitudes towards bullying increases bullying even more.
These things make the bullies do more because of the indifference treatment giving over the issue.
They don’t have to be afraid of the consequences of their actions.
Lack of supervision during a break period for the bullied victim
This could also be seen as being indifferent to the bullies.
Unlike being, indifferent, lack of supervision is the absence of monitoring bullies and bully related matters.
it represents not investigating any of it at all.
which means if there is any report on bullying it won’t be investigated.
Read about how to identify bullies or check out the overview of bullying